Remember the days when you first came across your wife or husband? Those wonderful romantic sexy days when you loved being in each other’s company and could converse for hours. You would do those special things for each other just to see the look of delight on his/her face. They were the days when your relationship was rich and dynamic and you felt fully alive because of it.
Now the “Limerance” stage is long gone, as it always does………. but have you evolved into an even better version of a deeper fuller love? …..Or have you taken your loved one for granted and busying yourself with other “more pressing” things, like jobs and children and work around the home, and finances and friends?
One of the most common stories I find in my private practice as a Psychologist specializing in Relationships is a “natural neglect” in long-term.
Even though everything in your shared life together is based on a foundation of your affection for each other, and your shared life, it’s all too easy to take for granted that your relationship will always be stable, without realizing that it, too, needs attending to and nurturing.
Perhaps you could converse with your partner and ask him/her how happy he or she is in your relationship, on a rough scale of 1 to 10. Then follow it with the more important question of “What would have to happen to make it a 10 for you?”
Keeping your relationship alive and healthy needs ongoing attention, but not only does it make for a more enjoyable relationship, but is one of the most enduring aspects of a life well lived.
In the final years of one’s life, thoughts more often than not turn to how well did I love and be loved, rather than how much money will I die with.
If you’ve let your relationship slip away from you, a relationship Psychologist can show you, in a few sessions, how to bring back the passion, chemistry and love again.
The Hart Centre is a group of 51 Psychologists Australia wide who specialize in relationship counselling and marriage counselling. We have 15 Psychologists located throughout Sydney, so there is sure to be one near you. Phone the Hart Centre on 1300 830 552 for more details.
For relationship counselling Sydney, or marriage counselling Sydney contact the Hart Centre. Many marriages have been saved through couple counselling Sydney.